Suzanne Portnoy

Dear Peanut Gallery,

I’ve started sleeping with this guy. He’s totally NOT relationship material being a self-confessed layabout and completely unmotivated but I think he’s really funny and cute and sexy. We’re completely opposite in that he sees being ‘chilled’ as a career whereas I hardly ever sit down. Still, it’s kind of nice and different to just be with someone who really doesn’t want to do anything other than just hang out with me. When we kiss, my brain goes all fuzzy and when he’s around, I just want to f*** him all the time. So far, so good, right?

The thing is though that in the two dates we’ve been on and the many, many hours of sex we’ve had, he hasn’t gone down on me. This makes me think that he doesn’t like going down. I really love giving head so I’m trying not to get too hung up on the fact that he hasn’t reciprocated but after our last meeting, I couldn’t but think that it would have been really nice had he spent just a little time down there.

I’m worried if I bring up the subject he might think that I’m keeping score or that I might make him feel inadequate, even though I did tell him prior to our first meeting that I once had a boyfriend who wanted to spend all day licking my pussy. Should I just say the next time we meet, we’re in bed together and I’m feeling the need for some good oral sex, ‘Lick my pussy,’ and see how he responds? Should I ask him if he has something against eating pussy? Should I just shut up and get over it?

It wouldn’t bother me so much if I’d had it from someone else recently, but he’s my most recent lover although I’m thinking I may just need to make a call soon to someone who is going to give me what I want.

There you go…. answers in comments please.