Suzanne Portnoy

Suzanne, no pleasing you is there. I understand if there wasn’t much conversation but you can talk everyday and still text each other during it as a prelude to being together that night, it works for me and my partner and when we don’t see each other we will talk at least once in the evening every day. also there is nothing to stop you ringing them surely. Thats not you being obsessive is it and in our time of equality would only be considered fair. I love my partner ringing me the next day because its shows they too are thinking of me and is feeling good after the night before. This blog places the emphasis of being loving on the bloke, expected more empathy given to either sex. I guess we all have pet peeves about the genders of adults. thats life i suppose. I apologise for the mistakes i may make in spellings and bad grammar but please you don’t need to worry about my dress sense in the summer or anytime. Keep it up suzanne…..

I had cause to remonstrate with Ruf recently when even his texts dried up. There is nothing more guaranteed to make a girl get that chill up and down her spine than a complete lack of communication other than that instigated by herself. When you care about a guy but cannot see him very often, that inbetween time is very difficult and I agree with you that a phone call every day is something that should be de rigeur. However, with an extremely independent Aquarius, I satisfy myself that a text - even if it is a very corny joke - means that he is still thinking about me. If he misses a day, I shall in future be drawing his attention to the fact that he is not irreplaceable and taking me for granted is not a state of mind that he wants to be getting into.

Well, guys, unfortunately this ‘relationship’ hasn’t gotten to the stage of setting rules. It’s merely in that stage of ‘let’s see if we can take this thing out of Rios and into the real world. That may mean just sex every once in a while although I know he’s not a casual sex kinda guy. That’s not speculation on my part. I’ve known him long enough to know he’s not a swinger or a guy that enjoys sex for sex sakes. Whatever will be, will be. But if it’s just text messages and nothing more, than it’s not going to go very far!

P.S. Ian, you’re right. I have a hard time with the phoning/texting thing. I don’t know what frequency is right or wrong. The old fashioned part of me likes men to do the chasing. It just doesn’t feel right to ring. No doubt by now he has googled me, freaked out about my lurid past and is madly backpeddling!

Thats as maybe suzanne and he probably thinks he may just be a chapter in your next book. If he has enjoyed you so far and has kept in touch so far, then it may lead somewhere but i’m not done the swinging thing myself and he isn’t so don’t know what he will decide. If he met you at rios and thats all, and he’s not aware about you in the real world, why do you think his next move would be to google you.

No, we never swapped numbers until this past weekend. Before we would just run into each other at Rios, have incredible sex and then each go home. I only told him he was in my latest book on Saturday. Anyway, looks like he may be coming around for dinner on Friday. He told me he was going to buy the book. I’m probably getting all worked up over nothing.