Suzanne Portnoy

I have got confused with all these books trying to teach us how to do the right thing to get Mr. Right. I think that it is just a load of rubbish really. I now think that there are no rules. I have friends that met their husbands and shagged on the first date, others that played the virgin and are still alone.

I think Suzanne that what is meant to be is meant to be. The real secret is a bit of balance really. It’s not my trait to fuck someone on the first date, I sure have done that, but it felt right, but I am not into numbers. Men do get a bit threatened with a woman that are too liberal. They are hypocrites. They can shag hundreds but their women cannot, with few expectations most of them would go to a woman that does not sell herself as a maneater…

Playing games, maybe, I would say that we can just try to be clever and deliver what they want.

I truly believe that if a man is interested he makes the phone call, even if the woman is the biggest whore in town!

i’m curious — just from a technical POV, of course — about how you’d pretend you don’t know how to do a blowjob.

maybe you’d try something you know is not great, and say, Is this how you do it??

and then he’d say, that’s not bad.

and then you’d do something you know is a little better,
and he’d say, you’re getting it.

and so on, as you escalate the thrills…

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might be fun to try. if that’s how it would work.

I wonder if your “Rules” book is somewhat a response to “The Game”, which talks about how to fuck as many women as possible. The rules are basically the same…play hard to get and make yourself seem really popular.

These books pretty much grotesque me, despite whatever kernels of truth they may contain.

Valerie: I agree. I hate all ’self help’ books in general and can’t see why anyone would listen to most of their advice. Of course, if there was a self-help book that really told it how it was, now that would be different…

Mimi: Sounds like fun to me too. I could try that. I’ll let you know how the experiment goes. I have a lunch date with someone new on Thursday, although obviously if he’s nice it will take a while to get to the BJ stage of the relationship.

Chris: The Game came after The Rules and is really a very good book about how to pick up girls told from the POV of a guy who had no luck before meeting some master pick-up artistes and amalgamating all their tips into his own style. It’s a great read. The Rules, on the other hand, is basically as you say about just playing hard to get and pretending to be disinterested when you’re not. It’s all rather obvious and one can completely understand it. The main point of it is that men still want to be the ones to chase.

Should make for some amusing blogs Suzanne, but won’t you simply die of boredom? Or do you think you might find the old playing-hard-to-get routine a fabulous turn-on?

Suzanne, is this new person someone that you met online? If so I doubt that is a good start, and the chances that it end up in pear shape is greater I reckon.
Indeed men still like to chase, that is why I said we have to know what they want and deliver in the way the want (yes, playing games, but that is reality).
From what I read from you (pardon me if I am mistaken), you seem to aggressive towards men and usually they don’t like it, unless it’s for a one off thing (I am sometimes aggressive too, but usually when I want a one night stand).

Rosie: I don’t know. It might be a turn-on. It’s a thought.

Valerie: I don’t think I’m particularly aggressive. in fact, most men say that I appear much more aggressive online than I really am. Yes, it’s someone I met online. It’s pretty difficult being a working mum to meet men any other way. My experience of meeting older men in bars is that they like to drink and I don’t. Alot of nice people meet each other online - I wouldn’t be so dismissive.

As I said from what I read her I assume that. It’s difficult to meet men in bars if you are not 20, let alone older. I am not totally dismissive, I know people that have met their partner online, quite few actually, just depends of which site. In any case it’s a lucky deep isn’t it? Keep us posted.

Dearest Suzanne:
1. I ALWAYS fuck on the first date. All my relationships have begun that way.
2. There is no perfect man, just like there’s no perfect woman. We’re a bitch to live with, too! It is about compromise. My first husband was a “nice” drunk. I knew that in college, and I accepted it. We broke up for an entirely different reason: because he didn’t like the dyke-y girl I picked as my female lover.
3. My rule is: fuck the rules; be yourself, but don’t be too needy. I guess that’s a combo of the two. It’s worked for me.
4. There’s something to giving them the hot, dirty sex they can’t get anywhere else. We know a thing or two.
5. I like multiple partners, too. I’m always up for a threesome, so maybe I just fit the bill, but hey: they’re fun!

That’s my two cents. Love you!

I want to see you knitting with those vibrators!

Does it really make a difference whether you fuck on the first date or not? If it’s going to work, it’s going to work but there are no guarantees about for how long that’s going to be. And, whatever, happens, both parties have to want it to last and work towards that end.